Dear Howwe,
I’m having amazing sex with the woman I’ve wanted for the last 25 years but my ex-lover’s child will ruin my life.
All my dreams are at last coming true, but I’ve found out I’ll soon be a dad due to a half-hearted on-off affair with a woman I’ve never loved.
I’m 43 and I was married for 18 years — happily married, I thought, though we never had kids.
My wife is 42. But I found out she cheated on me, then I cheated on her a few times.
That was mostly to get my revenge but I got a girl pregnant, completely unplanned.
Thank goodness she didn’t want to be a parent any more than I did so that was that.
My wife soon cottoned on about my affairs and that put the lid on our marriage. She told me to leave and I found myself living alone.
I spent a year feeling abandoned and lost. Then I met a girl down the pub.
She’s ten years younger than me and very sweet, but I knew from the start that she wasn’t my type. I took her out a few times and enjoyed having sex after so long without it.
In the end, I could see she was getting involved so I told her it just wasn’t working for me.
She was upset but what else could I do?
I was back on my own when I heard from a girl that I’d known back at school and I’d secretly loved all my life. She’s my age.
She said that her marriage had ended and she wanted to meet up with me for a drink.
Of course, I said yes and when we had sex, it was fantastic. It didn’t take long for us both to fall deeply in love.
I thought that for once, fate was smiling on me. Then the other girl gave me the news that she’s having my child.
I’m in such a mess and so worried about it all. I can’t bear to risk losing the woman I love.
Advise please!
